Open vs. Closed Adoption?
When you choose adoption, you’re not “giving up” your baby—you’re making an empowered, loving decision that puts their best interests first. One of the most important choices you’ll make in this journey is whether you want an open or closed adoption.
Understanding the difference between open and closed adoption can help you feel confident about the path ahead. Whether you want to stay connected with your child or prefer more privacy, the choice is yours.
You deserve to feel supported every step of the way. Schedule a consultation today to talk with a Michigan adoption specialist who can help you create the right adoption plan for you.
Open vs. Closed Adoption
Most modern day adoptions include some level of contact between birth and adoptive families—that’s what we call open adoption.
Open adoption means you can:
In terms of the difference between open and closed adoption, on the other hand, means there’s no contact after placement. All identifying information remains private.
While closed adoptions used to be the norm, they’re much less common now. That’s because open adoption provides emotional benefits for everyone involved—especially for birth mothers like you who want peace of mind knowing their child is safe and thriving.
Caitlin, a birth mother who placed her baby for adoption with us, developed a relationship with the adoptive family.
“Amanda never left my side — like, she barely went to the bathroom,” Caitlin said. “She held my hand the whole time and then when he was born, I told her, ‘Cut the cord. You can do that; it’s okay.’ I feel like we’re closer, whereas some birth parents wait until the last minute and they don’t have the opportunity to get to know their family. I got to really get to know them, and not just off of the paper.”
“He [their son] gets this family who can take care of him and do everything I couldn’t, but he can also know that I didn’t just give him away. I had a purpose for him, and it was meant to be.”
At American Adoptions, every family we work with agrees to at least:
- Email and phone updates
- One in-person visit during the first five years of your child’s life
That way, even if you’re unsure about how much contact you want, you’ll always have options.
Open Adoption vs. Closed Adoption: What’s the Difference?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to deciding between open and closed adoption, and that’s a good thing—because you’re in charge.
Here’s how open, semi-open, and closed adoption compare:
You decide the kind of relationship you want. And we’ll match you with a family who feels the same.
If you’re still unsure what feels right, that’s OK. Many women aren’t sure at first. We can help you figure it out—and even handle all communication until you’re ready to take over.
Open and Closed Adoption [Benefits of Open Adoption]
There are countless benefits to open adoption—for you, your child, and the adoptive family.
The benefits of choosing open or semi-open adoption include:
- Providing important medical history
- Avoiding your child struggling with identity issues
- Allowing your child to get answers to their questions
- Developing meaningful relationships
At American Adoptions, we’ve helped thousands of women experience these benefits. We’re here to support you with every detail—including free counseling, financial support for rent and bills, and a process that puts you in control.
Helina, another birth mom that placed her child for adoption with us, has formed a close relationship through an open adoption.
“About two weeks after leaving the hospital, I got my first email from Jen. It was so great to hear from them. We emailed on a weekly basis. When it comes to holidays and birthdays, I treat PJ like my other two. I make sure that they all get the same number of gifts,” said Helina. “A year after PJ was born, I was able to travel to Philadelphia and visit with them. We went to the zoo, children’s museum, and went out a few times. They welcomed me with open arms. The following year, I was able to see them three or four times. Each year, to this day, I am able to travel to Philadelphia to see them,”
“We are a close family now. My children know that PJ is their brother. This past June, Jen and Pete came to Florida for a long weekend. It was a great time. I enjoyed watching PJ and my children interact. They were able to see my son play baseball, and we went to Orlando for a few days.”
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Choosing adoption doesn’t mean losing your child. It means choosing the life you dream of for them—and a better future for yourself. You get to decide what your journey looks like, and we’re here to walk with you through it all.
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Open vs. Closed Adoption? [FAQ]
Is Michigan an open adoption state?
Yes. Michigan allows open, semi-open, and closed adoptions. The level of openness depends entirely on what you and the adoptive family agree upon. Open adoption agreements are not legally enforceable in Michigan, but families working with American Adoptions are committed to honoring those arrangements.
What is the new adoption law in Michigan?
Michigan continues to evolve its approach to adoption, with a strong emphasis on transparency, ethical practices, and birth parent rights. For the most up-to-date info, speak with a specialist or consult official state adoption resources.
What do the differences between open and closed adoptions include?
The difference between open and closed adoption centers on the level of contact and information shared. Open adoption includes ongoing communication, while closed adoption keeps identifying details private and limits contact after placement.
What are the cons of a closed adoption?
Some birth parents report:
- Feelings of grief or unresolved emotions due to lack of updates
- Worry about their child’s wellbeing
- Difficulty reconnecting later in life
That’s why many women today choose open or semi-open adoption—it brings reassurance and continued connection.
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